Ditching Mr. Wrong Blog

When it comes to relationships, we think we know everything. It seems as though every girl can identify the flaws of every relationship – except her own. Why are we often blinded to the subtle weaknesses and even the obvious red flags of our own relationships? It isn’t until we go through the ugly breakup that we see just how wrong “Mr. Right” really was.

For years, I watched my friends date a ton of Mr. Wrongs: cheaters, liars, abusers, and the jealous types. I always thought I knew everything. It was so easy to see just how terrible all THEIR relationships were. And then MY Mr. Wrong rolled around…

Mr. Wrong started out as a sweetheart. I was constantly receiving flowers and compliments. After about a year, I would describe the relationship as comfortable: It wasn’t the perfect relationship, but we had become content with each other.

About 18 months into the relationship, I started to realize that my relationship had taken a turn for the worse. Mr. Wrong accused me of flirting with other men. He drank too much. He talked down to me. He was disrespectful to my friends.

One day, I stopped and thought to myself, “Who is this guy? What happened to the nice guy I started dating?” If I had seen one of my friends dating a guy like that, I would think she was out of her mind! I would tell her to get rid of him as fast as possible and move on! So, why couldn’t I take my own advice?

I never even saw what was happening. I never saw the slow transition from the flowers and compliments to the accusations and fights. Once I did realize how bad the situation was, I made excuses for the relationship.

 Excuses:

1.       I was “comfortable” with him.

2.       The “drinking thing” is just a phase.

3.       He’s not talking down to me. He just has a sarcastic sense of humor.

4.       He’s not like all those other bad guys. He really does love me.

No one, men or women, should ever have to put up with such abuse. What was my mistake? Putting up with it.  Unfortunately, I learned this lesson by living it, but I now know what I want from a relationship – and that definitely doesn’t involve any characteristics from this Mr. Wrong.

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