Ditching Mr. Wrong Blog

Holly and Megan are hanging out. Holly tells Megan that she really likes Jason. Jason goes out to the bars. Jason hits on a lot of girls. Jason calls Holly at 1:00 AM as he is leaving the bars: “Holly, come over to my place.” Holly get giddy and says to me, “Oh my godness! That was Jason. He wants to hang out! YAY!”

Ok, STOP!

It’s 1:00 am. He obviously wants to sleep with you, and you know it. But you are just so excited to see him and hang out with him, so you ignore that fact. Some girls are actually looking for a late night hook-up. However, some girls are looking for a relationship. So what happens?

Case #1: Boy calls girl. Girl goes to see boy late at night. Girl sleeps with boy. Girl leaves in the morning. Boy doesn’t call back. Girl doesn’t know what she did wrong.

Case #2: Boy calls girl. Girl goes to see boy late at night. Girl sleeps with boy. Girl leaves in the morning. Boy calls back…. but never before midnight. You are his new official booty call speed dial.

Case #3: Boy calls girl late at night. Girl says “why are you calling me right now. Its 1:00 in the morning.” Girl hangs up the phone. Ok, maybe it doesn’t have to be quite so blunt, but you get the picture.

If a guy gets mad because you don’t go to see him when it’s really late… then he is MR. WRONG.

I know that when you like someone, it is REALLY hard to say no. But really, you are helping yourself. You won’t become a booty call. He will respect you more.

Keep on keepin’on,

H

Good afternoon ladies! First, I’d like to start off by saying that throughout my life I have been through many relationships, and have experienced all types of the profiles of Mr. Wrong. I know how it feels to be treated poorly in a bad relationship, and not have the power to exit the relationship and leave that significant other who you truly care about. Ditching Mr. Wrong offers different reasons women hold back from getting rid of the wrong guy in their lives, and we’d love to hear some of your stories, and even offer some advice from the professional, Mr. Nicholas Aretakis. So, take a look at these different observations, and if any do relate to you and your own relationship please leave a story and any possible questions you may have! 

Fear: ”No one else will ever want me.”

Arrogance: ”No one knows him like I do. I can change him.”

Sex: ”It’s not going to be this good with anyone else.”

Time: ”I’ve already invested so much in this relationship.”

Loneliness: ”I don’t want to be alone.”

Ignorance: ”Men are all pretty much like this one, aren’t they?”

Effort: ”I’d have to work too hard (lose weight, get a makeover, end addictions, rebuild social networks) to get a better one.”

Defensiveness: ”You just don’t know all his good qualities.”

Any sound familiar? Let’s hear some gossip girls! 

Have an amazing day, and never forget to always be yourself and never let ANYONE in your life bring you down! -Jenn

“If I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.” -Mahatma Gandhi

“If you doubt you can accomplish something, then you can’t accomplish it. You have to have confidence in your ability, and then be tough enough to follow through.” -Rosalyn Carter

When it comes to relationships, we think we know everything. It seems as though every girl can identify the flaws of every relationship – except her own. Why are we often blinded to the subtle weaknesses and even the obvious red flags of our own relationships? It isn’t until we go through the ugly breakup that we see just how wrong “Mr. Right” really was.

For years, I watched my friends date a ton of Mr. Wrongs: cheaters, liars, abusers, and the jealous types. I always thought I knew everything. It was so easy to see just how terrible all THEIR relationships were. And then MY Mr. Wrong rolled around…

Mr. Wrong started out as a sweetheart. I was constantly receiving flowers and compliments. After about a year, I would describe the relationship as comfortable: It wasn’t the perfect relationship, but we had become content with each other.

About 18 months into the relationship, I started to realize that my relationship had taken a turn for the worse. Mr. Wrong accused me of flirting with other men. He drank too much. He talked down to me. He was disrespectful to my friends.

One day, I stopped and thought to myself, “Who is this guy? What happened to the nice guy I started dating?” If I had seen one of my friends dating a guy like that, I would think she was out of her mind! I would tell her to get rid of him as fast as possible and move on! So, why couldn’t I take my own advice?

I never even saw what was happening. I never saw the slow transition from the flowers and compliments to the accusations and fights. Once I did realize how bad the situation was, I made excuses for the relationship.

 Excuses:

1.       I was “comfortable” with him.

2.       The “drinking thing” is just a phase.

3.       He’s not talking down to me. He just has a sarcastic sense of humor.

4.       He’s not like all those other bad guys. He really does love me.

No one, men or women, should ever have to put up with such abuse. What was my mistake? Putting up with it.  Unfortunately, I learned this lesson by living it, but I now know what I want from a relationship – and that definitely doesn’t involve any characteristics from this Mr. Wrong.