A Good Man…and, Plenty of Not-So-Good Men!
Friday, January 21st, 2011I usually begin my DMW posts with a certain scenario, pertaining to a certain duo. Sometimes I’ll write about a couple, sometimes, I’ll write about a potential couple, and so on and so forth. But, tonight I’m going to change it up a bit! Let’s dissect a good man, and a couple not-so-good men, shall we? Oh, and all of this insanely valuable information can be found in Ditching Mr. Wrong…but, you knew that!
We’re All a Little Familiar with the “Good Guy:”
He’s the man we know we want to marry; period. He’s loyal, dependable, kind, honest, smart, educated, has a great sense of humor, takes great care of himself, has the ability to attain and sustain great, healthy, and long-lasting relationships with family and friends. He’s driven, successful, and financially savvy, too. Oh, and of course, he loves to cook and isn’t afraid of commitment.
Good news is ladies: HE’S OUT THERE! You just have to weed through a few…who am I kidding, A LOAD of Not-So-Good Guys! Here’s a glimpse into a couple of ‘em:
1. Mr. Rush Job:
He’s seemingly perfect…hot, a little cocky, social, instantly into you, and the first date is stellar! But, you guessed it – he’s just a little too into you…especially physically!
Now, he may have sincere reasons for coming on too strong; he may intensely attracted to you and simply unable to find the means to communicate it without coming on too strong. On the other hand, he could solely be after something besides you. But, it’s up to you to use your instincts and best judgment to make an informed decision. If you feel he’s a bit too aggressive and you’re not comfortable, then put a stop to it; period.
If you’re not comfortable moving at a sexually advanced pace, then be strong and decisive; and move on, and never, ever look back.
2. Mr. Triathlete:
A devoted Lance Armstrong-esq man who clearly takes great care of himself. Your first date centered around health, your joint love of the outdoors, a health-conscious lifestyle, and the like…and you quickly became inseparable! When you think back, you find yourself relishing in the fact that he had an unwavering commitment to his after-work workouts, wanted nothing more than to rise early on a Saturday morning to go hiking, and planned your vacations around physical activity.
The problem now is, he’s the complete opposite. After the “honeymoon phase,” he seems to be running on relationship auto-pilot, and as a result, has become increasingly lazy. In turn, you have become less and less attracted to him as the days tick by; and, he’s just not the guy you fell for.
What to do? Without being overbearing, figure out what’s caused such uproar in his physical health, or lack thereof. If it’s something pertaining to your relationship, you will at least have a starting-point. If not, ask him how you can help. Maybe encourage him by committing to healthier dinners, more physical outings. Also, men love a good task…maybe give him a few tasks to help get him on his feet! Also, be sure to be clear about your expectations when it comes to a healthy lifestyle.
However, if none of these suggestions seem to work, and you honestly believe the relationship is not worth salvaging because you two are adhering to two very different lifestyles, then, it probably isn’t.
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