Opposites Attract, BUT, Do they Also Retract?
Sunday, October 31st, 2010Bryant and Brianna have been dating for the past 6 months. They have lots in common and are always doing eclectic and exciting things; be it heading out to concerts, attending the latest art gallery openings, or venturing out to the latest hip wine and beer bar, eatery, or gelato cafe – the two are constantly “on the go.”
Bryant has a vibrant personality and is undeniably popular amongst his friends, family, and co-workers. He’ll make conversation with anyone, anytime, anywhere, and people, in general, seem to really enjoy his company. What’s more?, every time the two hit the town, Bryant can’t help but run into someone he knows! Hence, if they were to vacation somewhere on the Equator, Bryant would undoubtedly run into someone he knows.
Brianna, on the other-hand, is a bit on the shy side and, in truth, somewhat reserved. Despite the fact that she’s insanely witty, and has a colorful personality, it seems to only surface around those she’s most comfortable around! This in turn, has a tendency to frustrate and worry Bryant, as he’s obviously the complete opposite on the social scale.
Thus, when the two are out and about, Bryant has a tendency to feel the need to coddle Brianna, as he wants to make sure she’s having a good time, and is engaged in what they’re doing. This, in turn, belittles Brianna, and as a result, she becomes cold, annoyed, and moreover, disinterested.
Bryant really likes Brianna, and has addressed her social disposition bluntly, but Brianna simply feels that she appears that much more “unsocial,” because Bryant is so social.
IN THIS PARTICULAR CASE:
Bryant and Brianna might be socially unmatched, or, they simply need more time to become more familiar with each other’s social personalities over time. And, being that they have so much in common, like the same activities, and generally, enjoy each other’s company, as long as they’re both willing to be a bit patient, the future looks bright!
BOTTOM LINE:
Communication and patience are key. Brianna, if she shares a similar interest in Bryant that he has for her, then she needs to provide him with some guidance on how he can make her feel comfortable out in larger and diverse social situations, which seem to arise frequently.
Beware though, if Brianna simply wants Bryant to be less social, trying to change him, trouble may lurk ahead! The common ground may be for Bryant to overtly introduce Brianna as his girlfriend, and try to find areas of common interest where Brianna can contribute, and share Bryant’s interests in socializing with a diverse group. Bryant should be attentive whether Brianna is willingly participating, and if not, should cut the impromptu conversations off, and redirect attention to their prior activities.
